I’ve been trying to figure out when to write a post like this and if a post like this is really necessary. Today I decided that yes, it is necessary, and today is the day.
Over the past three years I’ve talked to many people about their struggle with suicide. I’ve heard numerous stories of suicide attempts – both of those who didn’t make it and those that have a second chance to live – that break my heart. I’ve also realized how easy it is to overlook depression and bipolar disorder. Personally, I’ve never neared the point of wanting to end my life nor can I say that I suffer from depression or bipolar disorder, but what I can say is that those dark thoughts consume more people than a lot of us think.
And that needs to change.
For those of you reading this that are in a situation that seems unbeatable, dark, and inescapable, below is a list of 50 reasons that might help you beat those thoughts for today.
1. That one good friend
2. That one good family member
3. Your pet or the pet you plan to get in the future
4. Your significant other (boyfriend or girlfriend)
5. The clean smell everything has after it rains
6. When the leaves change colors in the Fall
7. Long walks on the beach
8. The feeling of sun on your face in the summer
9. Running into friends you haven’t seen in forever
10. Becoming friends with someone
11. Looking at the stars in a place where you can actually see all the stars
12. Late night conversations when you have to get up early the next day
13. Christmas seasons, lights, songs, spirit
14. The sunset
15. Holding hands
16. Pay day
18. Finally going to a place you’ve only heard about or seen pictures of
19. The idea of getting married someday
20. Having someone say that you’ve changed their life
21. Finding money you forgot about
23. A good hug – not a weak, awkward short hug, a real, good hug
24. Your favorite teacher or class
25. Laughing until you cry
26. Smiling until your face hurts
27. Fangirling (or fanboying if that’s a thing) over celebrities
28. Good blog posts
29. Reading your favorite book – again, and again, and again
30. Making a list of your favorite movies and taking a day to watch them all
31. That feeling after getting a haircut
32. When a baby holds your finger
33. Your favorite homemade meal (or favorite restaurant meal for that matter, all food is good)
34. Spontaneous adventures
35. Freshly cleaned, warm sheets
36. “Liking” someone
37. Loving someone
38. Discovering your purpose
39. Breaking habits and/or addictions
40. Getting 12 or more hours of sleep
42. Your kids
43. Achieving a goal you set for yourself
44. The people you might meet tomorrow
45. Stretching after you wake up
46. Taking deep breaths
48. Going on a hiking trip by yourself
49. Being able to tell someone “I made it, so can you.”
50. Jeremiah 29:11
For those of you reading this that know someone in that situation, if you can, be there for them. If you can’t handle that weight, encourage them to find someone who can and give them options (see the note at the bottom). Check in on them and don’t be bothered by their texts, questions, or phone calls. Have a person you can open up to and vent to for yourself. Pray. Pray. Pray.
For those of you reading this that don’t know someone in that situation – that can be good. It might mean that you’re a pretty great friend, sibling, teammate, teacher, etc. to the people around you. I would encourage you to genuinely invest in other people. God has placed you in a bright spot in your life and He’s looking for you to spread that light onto other people. Ask people how they’re doing and double check. Sit and have coffee with someone and talk about life and things they’re going through. Build people up and love them unconditionally, you could be saving someone’s life and not even know it.
Lastly, if anyone ever needs to talk about any difficult time they’re going through I’m here. Open mind, open heart, and open ears are guaranteed regardless of who you are. Your life is more important than any predisposed idea that me or anyone else has of you. Big problems or small problems; text me, talk to me, DM me, call me. Just know someone cares and don’t be afraid to
Important Note: this is what is considered a living post and is updated nearly every time it is reposted. Depression and bipolar are very scary and very real things and constantly affect millions of people every single day – but there are ways to fight back against them. I encourage you to further the discussion. If you are ever in need or have a friend in need, please contact the suicide prevention hotline run by The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance at 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK). They have 24-hour support whether you need to know what to do or just need someone to talk to.
God bless and keep your heads held high because YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made and abundantly loved by the Creator of the universe, Wonderful Counselor, Prince of Peace, and Father of all Creation.